The Despair of Dichotomous Thinking

Seven years ago, when I started thinking and writing about sex and politics, the dominant ideology — the one that had inflicted the most harm upon men and women and the relationships we formed and forwent — was liberal feminism.

I grew up under the fluorescent tyranny of “female empowerment,” so-called. For a girl who left home at 15, girlboss feminism offered a superficially strong sense of self where confidence, let alone purpose, was otherwise illusory.

The problem wasn’t that the “girl power” stuff encouraged the virtue of diligence; it was that it encouraged selfishness and status-seeking to the exclusion and detriment of human relationships, men, and, dare I say, female happiness.


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