Behind Closed Doors: Practising Modesty in the Digital Eye of Sauron

“Another day, another divorce celebration story in the Times. I’ve written elsewhere about the reverse survivorship bias that skews media content toward stories of marriage collapse rather than survival. But in the case of this exemplar, I was struck by how its author, an Instagram parenting influencer, included no mention of the recursive effect documenting her family life online might have on the family itself.

But I’d be surprised if there was no impact. By comparison with Mother Pukka, my platform is modest. But if there’s something I’ve learned since I began writing in public, it’s that the pressure to self-disclose is constant, and self-disclosure is a two-edged sword.”